What Are You Really Feeling?
Anger. Shame. Anxiety. Sadness.
A free guided workbook for the faith-filled woman who is ready to stop fighting her emotions and start understanding what they are trying to tell her.
"Having no language for what I am carrying is almost worse than the wound itself."
You know something is there and you have known for a while. It follows you through ordinary days in the form of anxiety that will not quite settle, anger that surprises you with its own intensity, and shame that keeps telling the same story even when you know, somewhere deeper than knowing, that the story is not the whole truth.
You feel it in your chest when a conversation goes sideways, in the tightness that rises before you can even name what triggered it, in the distance you feel from God even when you are doing everything you have always done. You carry it through rooms full of people who have no idea it is there, and the exhaustion of that carrying is its own kind of weight.
You have language for the surface. You do not yet have language for what is underneath it. That is what this workbook is for.
You might recognize yourself in one of these:
Tonya
"Having no language for what I am carrying is almost worse than the wound itself. I have a gaping wound and I have to go around engaging in small talk and pretending it is not there."
Janna
"I know in my head that I am not too much, that I am not unlovable, that I do not have to stay small. But it does not make it feel less true."
Laura
"I have detached myself from my grief and my pain just to function and survive. But it is lying deep inside of me like a dormant volcano."
What's inside:
What Are You Really Feeling? is a free guided, 35+ page workbook that walks you through the four emotions most often found underneath grief, spiritual disorientation, and pain.
Anger. Shame. Anxiety. Sadness.
Not to fix them. Not to resolve them by the last page. But to finally name them, understand where they came from, and bring them honestly to a God who was present for every moment of the story that formed them.
Each section moves slowly. There are reflection questions, space to write, and a prayer liturgy at the close of each emotion—not a formula, but a real conversation with the Lord about what you are carrying.
There is also a Nuanced Emotions Chart, a Body Sensations list, and a 22 Relational Needs inventory in the appendix. These exist because sometimes the right entry point is not a thought. It is a sensation, a tightness, or a bracing you felt before you knew what you were bracing for.
What is unprocessed does not disappear... it settles.
This is where it begins to move.
GET THE FREE WORKBOOKBefore you download this, I want to say one honest thing.
This is not a feel-good resource. It is not inspiration for a hard week. It is not a devotional to read and set aside.
It will ask you to slow down and look at what you have been avoiding. At what your emotions have been protecting. At the harm that was done to you, and possibly the harm you have done to others out of pain you never knew how to name.
That is not comfortable work. It is not a breakthrough moment.
Those who do this work find something real on the other side. Not in totality. Not all at once. But the kind of change that gives you language, and tools, and safe people whose faces do not turn away.
If that is what you are actually looking for—this is for you. And it is free.
Why I Created This:
Several years ago, I attended a weekend intensive that required me to write one thousand words about my own story. Five specific instances of harm, from birth to thirty years old, due at 11:59 in the evening. I started writing at 11:15, not because I had forgotten the assignment, but because I was that afraid to look at it. To name it. To let it exist somewhere outside of me, on a page, where I would have to see it staring back and could no longer move around it the way I had learned to do.
I cried for an hour after I finished. I arrived at the intensive two weeks later, shaking, fearful in a way that had settled into my chest and my hands and the back of my throat tightened, carrying something I had spent years learning to outpace.
I am a trauma-informed spiritual mentor, a single mother of six, and a woman who spent years staying in motion and called it healing.
I did not want to look at what was underneath. There were things I had to admit to—harm done to me, and harm I caused others out of coping mechanisms I had never learned to name. I had to look at people I had covered up for and made excuses for, because as a child I did not know how else to survive the fact that they were not there the way they should have been.
That is not easy work. I will not tell you it is.
But I can tell you what is on the other side: language, and tools, and people in my life whose faces do not turn away.
I built this workbook from that place. From my own story. I am pulling up a chair along side you.
I'm Ready to Stop Surviving This and Start Understanding It
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